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#92: đď¸ Film, AI & the Future of Creativity with Anthony Giovanni Elias
July 27, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee sit down again with their friend Anthony Giovanni Elias for another round of film industry talk, creative chaos, and real conversation.
Anthony shares the exciting film ventures he has coming up, while he and Lee dive into their collaborations, what theyâre building together, and where they see the film industry heading next. From creative projects to industry shifts, this conversation gets into the passion, work, and evolution happening behind the scenes.
They also talk about AI in filmâhow itâs changing the industry, what it could mean for creators, and why technology can be both exciting and unsettling when it comes to art.
And because this is Messy on Purpose, the conversation takes a turn into fitness too. Fylisha, Lee, and Anthony discuss how people react when someone who is in shape eats a treatâand what those comments usually reveal about the other personâs mindset, discipline, and relationship with food.
This episode covers:
Anthonyâs upcoming film ventures
Lee and Anthonyâs film collaborations
Where the film industry is headed
How AI is changing creativity and filmmaking
The balance between technology and real artistry
Fitness, food comments, and peopleâs assumptions
Itâs film talk, future talk, fitness talk, and the kind of messy conversation that somehow all connects.
Because creativity is changing, the industry is shifting, and the people willing to adapt are the ones who keep moving forward.
#89: đĽÂ Film, Feeling & Finding Your Creative Purpose
July 20, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into Leeâs new food series heâs working on with his chef friendâtrying new places, finding the best dishes, and recreating them with their own spin.
But, as always, the conversation goes deeper than food.
Fylisha and Lee also talk about happiness, personal responsibility, and what it really means to take control of your own life. If something isnât workingâyour mindset, your habits, your environment, your routineâitâs up to you to make a change. No one is coming to do it for you.
They discuss:
Leeâs new food series and creative process
Trying new restaurants and recreating standout dishes
Why happiness is something you create, not wait for
How taking action can reduce fear and anxiety
Focusing on whatâs actually in your control
How 30 days of gratitude has been a game changer for Lee
This episode is part food talk, part mindset reset, and part reminder that life gets better when you stop waiting and start choosing.
Because happiness doesnât just happen.
You build itâone choice, one action, and one grateful moment at a time.fferently.
#90: đ Fake Confidence vs. Real Confidence
July 13, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into the difference between fake confidence and real confidenceâand why the two can look very similar from the outside.
They talk about how some people show up bold, loud, and untouchable online, but are completely different in person. Is it confidence? Is it performance? Or is it just a mask people use to avoid doing the real inner work?
This conversation explores:
Why people fake confidence instead of building it
How social media rewards performance over authenticity
The difference between being loud and being secure
Why real confidence comes from self-work, discipline, and experience
How to spot the difference between confidence and insecurity in disguise
Fylisha and Lee unpack why true confidence isnât about proving yourself, impressing people, or acting like you have it all together.
Real confidence is quiet.
Itâs earned.
And itâs built by keeping promises to yourself when no one is watching.
Because pretending to be confident might get attentionâŚ
but actually becoming confident changes your life.
#89: đĽÂ Film, Feeling & Finding Your Creative Purpose
July 6, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha sits down with Lee for a deeper conversation about one of his biggest passions: film.
Lee opens up about where his love for film started, what storytelling means to him, and how his journey in the film industry has shaped the way he sees creativity, people, and life. From the emotional connection movies can create to the work that happens behind the camera, this episode gives a closer look at the passion that drives him.
Fylisha and Lee talk about:
Where Leeâs love for film began
What movies and storytelling mean to him personally
His journey through the film industry
The creative process behind the camera
Why film can connect with people so deeply
This episode is a real look at the person behind the producer roleâhis passion, his perspective, and the art form that continues to inspire him.
Because sometimes film isnât just entertainment.
Sometimes itâs the thing that helps us feel, connect, and see the world differently.
#88: đĽłÂ When the Party Ends⌠Or Does It?
June 29, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into the idea of what happens when âthe partyâ ends⌠or whether it actually ends at all.
What does it mean when people say the party is over? Does that mean growing up? Slowing down? Changing priorities? Or does the party simply turn into something different?
Fylisha and Lee explore how the meaning of âpartyâ can look different for everyone. For some, it might mean nightlife, drinking, and chaos. For others, it might become good conversations, meaningful experiences, travel, food, laughter, or simply enjoying life in a way that feels more aligned.
They discuss:
What âthe partyâ means at different stages of life
How fun changes as you grow
Why evolving doesnât mean becoming boring
Letting go of old versions of excitement
Finding joy in new seasons
This episode is a reminder that life doesnât stop being fun just because it looks different now.
Maybe the party doesnât end.
Maybe it just grows up with you.
#87: đđź From âWhy Me?â to âWhat Can I Learn?â
June 22, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee talk about the mindset shift that can completely change how you experience life:
Going from âWhy me?â to âWhat can I learn from this?â
They dive into why even the darkest, hardest seasons can carry lessonsâif weâre willing to stop, look inward, and be honest about what life might be trying to show us.
Sometimes the same situations keep repeating because thereâs a lesson we havenât learned yet. Maybe itâs time to change your environment. Maybe itâs the people you keep around. Maybe itâs a habit, a mindset, or a pattern you keep choosing without realizing it.
This conversation is about:
Taking responsibility for your growth
Recognizing repeated patterns
Changing your perspective when life feels heavy
Learning from hard seasons instead of staying stuck in them
Choosing action over self-pity
Life isnât always easy, fair, or prettyâbut how you look at it matters.
Because sometimes the lesson keeps showing up until you finally choose to learn it.
#86: đ A Motherâs Story Worth Remembering with David Montalvo
June 15, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee get real about a hard truth that many people avoid:
đ no one owes you anything.
It doesnât matter what youâve been through.
It doesnât matter how hard youâve worked.
It doesnât matter how unfair life has felt.
The world is not going to hand you what you want just because you want it.
This conversation dives into:
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee sit down with David Montalvo, author of Shabbat in Chicago, a heartfelt book written to honor his incredible mother and preserve her story for generations to come.
David shares the inspiration behind the book, the life and strength of his single mom, and the powerful impact she had on her family, her community, and everyone who knew her. This conversation is a beautiful reminder that some stories are too meaningful to be forgottenâand sometimes writing them down is one of the greatest acts of love.
Together, they discuss:
The story behind Shabbat in Chicago
Davidâs motherâs journey as a single mom
Her influence on her community
Why preserving family stories matters
Turning love, grief, and gratitude into legacy
This episode is warm, heartfelt, and deeply meaningful. It reminds us that legacy isnât always built through fame or fortuneâsometimes itâs built through love, sacrifice, resilience, and the people whose lives we touch along the way.
đ Get Davidâs book, Shabbat in Chicago, here:
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The difference between expectation and action
Why entitlement keeps people stuck
Taking responsibility for the life you want
Why waiting for opportunities can hold you back
The mindset shift from âwhy me?â to âwhat now?â
This isnât about dismissing struggle â itâs about recognizing that growth starts when you stop waiting and start moving.
Because if you want something, sometimes the only option is to go make it happen.
#85: đŹ Hollywood Demons, UFC Fights & The Chaos Behind Fame
June 8, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into a truth that hits hard:
đ just because youâre busy doesnât mean youâre productive.
A full calendar, nonstop tasks, and constantly being âonâ can feel like progress⌠but is it actually moving you forward?
They In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into the wild, dark, and unsettling side of Hollywood after Fylisha watched Hollywood Demons.
They talk about the craziness behind fame, the strange stories that come out of the entertainment industry, and how the spotlight isnât always as glamorous as it looks. What starts as a conversation about Hollywood quickly turns into a deeper discussion about influence, power, and the things people donât always see behind the scenes.
And of course, it wouldnât be a Fylisha and Lee episode without the conversation shifting into fight talk.
They also discuss upcoming UFC fights, fighters theyâre watching, and the excitement around whatâs coming next in the octagon.
This episode blends pop culture, curiosity, fight talk, and real opinionsâbecause sometimes the conversation goes from Hollywood drama to UFC predictions, and thatâs exactly the kind of mess weâre here for.break down the difference between being busy and being intentional, and why so many people mistake constant motion for real productivity.
Inside this conversation:
Why busyness can feel productive even when itâs not
The difference between movement and meaningful progress
How busy work keeps you from focusing on what actually matters
Why productivity should be measured by results, not effort
This episode is a reminder that doing more isnât always the answer.
Sometimes real growth comes from doing less, but better.
#84: đŚ Here We Go Again? Fear, Freedom & Thinking for Yourself
June 1, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee get real about a hard truth that many people avoid:
đ In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee discuss the recent talk around a new cruise ship virus and the bigger question it brings up:
Are we headed toward another âhere we go againâ moment, or have people learned to pause, think, and question what theyâre being told?
This conversation looks back at the COVID years, the fear, the confusion, and the moments that still feel hard to believeâlike people wearing masks alone in their cars, constant death counts on the screen, and how deeply fear changed the way people treated each other.
Fylisha and Lee talk through their own experiences during that time, how quickly people fell in line, and why itâs important to stay grounded instead of letting fear make decisions for you.
They dive into:
Fear-based messaging and how it impacts people
Why critical thinking matters during uncertain times
The pressure to conform
How quickly judgment shows up when people disagree
Standing up for what you believe in
Refusing to be a blind follower
This episode isnât about telling people what to think.
Itâs about reminding people to think.
Because fear spreads fastâbut so can awareness, courage, and common sense.e owes you anything.
It doesnât matter what youâve been through.
It doesnât matter how hard youâve worked.
It doesnât matter how unfair life has felt.
The world is not going to hand you what you want just because you want it.
This conversation dives into:
The difference between expectation and action
Why entitlement keeps people stuck
Taking responsibility for the life you want
Why waiting for opportunities can hold you back
The mindset shift from âwhy me?â to âwhat now?â
This isnât about dismissing struggle â itâs about recognizing that growth starts when you stop waiting and start moving.
Because if you want something, sometimes the only option is to go make it happen.
#83: đŤ Your Feelings Are ValidâBut Theyâre Still Yours to Manage
May 25, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into a truth that hits hard:
đ just because youâre busy doesnât mean youâre productive.
A full calendar, nonstop tasks, and constantly being âonâ can feel like progress⌠but is it actually moving you forward?
They break down the difference between being busy and being intentional, and why so many people mistake constant motion for real productivity.
Inside this conversation:
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into emotional responsibility and the hard truth that people canât always know what weâre feeling unless we communicate it.
They talk about how two people can experience the same situation completely differentlyâand how what feels hurtful, frustrating, or obvious to one person may not register the same way for someone else.
This conversation explores:
Why your feelings are valid, but still yours to understand
How assumptions create unnecessary resentment
Why people canât read your mind
The importance of having hard conversations with love and respect
Taking ownership of your emotions instead of expecting others to âjust knowâ
This episode is a reminder that healthy communication starts with self-awareness. If something bothers you, it mattersâbut itâs also your responsibility to express it clearly, calmly, and honestly.
Because growth isnât just about feeling your emotions.
Itâs about learning how to communicate them.
Why busyness can feel productive even when itâs not
The difference between movement and meaningful progress
How busy work keeps you from focusing on what actually matters
Why productivity should be measured by results, not effort
This episode is a reminder that doing more isnât always the answer.
Sometimes real growth comes from doing less, but better.
#82: 𼊠Travel, Food Hacks & Getting Back on Track
May 18, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee are back after a couple weeks away from recording for a casual catch-up conversation.
They talk about recent travels, getting back into routine, food hacks, Costco finds, and simple ways to fuel your body without making health feel complicated. From fitness to travel meals to random side conversations, this episode feels like sitting down with friends and catching up on life.
They dive into:
Travel updates and life lately
Easy food and meal hacks
Costco finds that make life easier
Fueling your body the right way
Fitness, routines, and getting back on track
The fun, random conversations that always happen in between
This is a lighter, real-life episode about health, habits, travel, food, and doing your best to stay consistent when life gets busy.
Because sometimes the best conversations happen when you just hit record and catch up.
#81: đ Busy Isnât the Same as Productive
May 11, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into a truth that hits hard:
đ just because youâre busy doesnât mean youâre productive.
A full calendar, nonstop tasks, and constantly being âonâ can feel like progress⌠but is it actually moving you forward?
They break down the difference between being busy and being intentional, and why so many people mistake constant motion for real productivity.
Inside this conversation:
Why busyness can feel productive even when itâs not
The difference between movement and meaningful progress
How busy work keeps you from focusing on what actually matters
Why productivity should be measured by results, not effort
This episode is a reminder that doing more isnât always the answer.
Sometimes real growth comes from doing less, but better.
#80: đ The World Doesnât Owe You Anything
May 4, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee get real about a hard truth that many people avoid:
đ no one owes you anything.
It doesnât matter what youâve been through.
It doesnât matter how hard youâve worked.
It doesnât matter how unfair life has felt.
The world is not going to hand you what you want just because you want it.
This conversation dives into:
The difference between expectation and action
Why entitlement keeps people stuck
Taking responsibility for the life you want
Why waiting for opportunities can hold you back
The mindset shift from âwhy me?â to âwhat now?â
This isnât about dismissing struggle â itâs about recognizing that growth starts when you stop waiting and start moving.
Because if you want something, sometimes the only option is to go make it happen.
#79: đ Closure Doesnât Always Come with a Conversation
April 27, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into the idea of closure â what it really means, what it doesnât, and why it looks different for every person and every situation.
Sometimes people think closure has to be a long conversation, an apology, or a perfectly tied-up ending.
But does it?
This conversation explores:
Why closure means something different to everyone
How relationships, friendships, and life changes all require different kinds of endings
Why sometimes closure is simply deciding to move on
The power of quietly closing the door without needing more
This episode is a reminder that healing doesnât always come from answers.
Sometimes closure is not getting the conversation.
Sometimes itâs accepting what is.
Sometimes itâs choosing peace over explanation.
And sometimes⌠closing the door is enough.
#78: đ Fitness Isnât Complicated â We Just Made It That Way
April 20, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee break down one of the biggest problems in fitness:
đ people overcomplicate it.
From endless workout splits to âsecretâ formulas, trendy diets, and complicated routines, the fitness world often makes simple things feel impossible.
But the truth?
Fitness does not need to be complicated.
They dive into:
Why some people intentionally make fitness seem more complex
The illusion of a âsecret sauceâ
Why simple routines usually work best
How consistency beats perfection every time
The mindset shifts that actually create long-term results
This conversation is for anyone who feels overwhelmed by fitness advice and just wants something sustainable that works.
Because real progress usually comes from doing the basics well.
Not from making it harder than it needs to be.
#77: đ˛ WHY ARE WE IN THIS MEETING?!
April 13, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into the tiny everyday annoyances that somehow send us over the edge.
You know exactly what we mean:
đ meetings that shouldâve been emails
đ phone calls that definitely couldâve been texts
đą unnecessary back-and-forth that wastes everyoneâs time
This episode is funny, relatable, and packed with those âTHANK YOU, I THOUGHT IT WAS JUST MEâ moments.
Sometimes itâs not the big problems that get under our skinâŚ
itâs the little things that stack up.
Because honestlyâŚ
why are we in this meeting? đ
#76: đ The Awkwardness We Never Talk About
April 6, 2026
In this episode of Messy on Purpose, Fylisha and Lee dive into one of those weirdly universal things we all experience but rarely talk about:
đ why does it feel so awkward to just⌠stand there?
Whether itâs being in an elevator, standing in a group of people, waiting in line, or sitting in silence, thereâs this almost automatic urge to grab your phone, look busy, or avoid eye contact just so it doesnât feel uncomfortable.
But why?
They unpack the social pressure behind awkward silence, the unspoken rules of public spaces, and why being still can sometimes feel harder than it should. From phone habits to body language to the strange ways humans cope with discomfort, this episode is funny, relatable, and a little too real.
Because sometimes the messiest conversations are about the little everyday things we all silently experience.
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